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Couples Quiz: 40 Questions to Test How Well You Know Each Other
40 couples quiz questions about daily life, tastes, memories and dreams, plus a simple way to play as a pair and the topics better left out.
A couples quiz isn’t a test. It’s an excuse to talk about the two of you, laugh at your little differences and find out what has changed since the day you met. Here are 40 questions sorted by theme, a simple way to play as a couple or with other couples, and the topics you’re better off leaving out.
How to play as a couple in ten minutes
The simplest version: one of you answers for yourself in secret, the other tries to guess. You compare, then you switch roles. To keep things moving, pick about ten questions per round instead of all 40 at once.
- Each of you writes down your answers on paper or in your phone’s notes app, without peeking at the other’s.
- Your partner guesses out loud, one question at a time.
- One point per right answer; a “close enough” answer can earn half a point if you both agree.
- After each miss, the person being guessed shares their real answer. That’s often where the real conversation starts.
If you’d rather use a ready-made version, the couples vibe gives you ten multiple-choice questions: you answer once, then send the link to your partner, who guesses your picks from their phone. The questions below are for keeping the game going out loud, over dinner or on a road trip.
10 questions about everyday life
- What’s the first thing I drink in the morning?
- Which chore do I always put off until tomorrow?
- Which side of the bed do I like to sleep on?
- What’s my go-to snack when I get home starving?
- How many alarms do I set on a weekday?
- Which app do I open the most?
- What do I order when we get takeout?
- What can put me in a bad mood in under five minutes?
- What’s my favorite way to unwind after a long day?
- What do I lose and hunt for all over the house at least once a week?
10 questions about tastes
- My favorite dessert?
- The movie I can watch again and again without getting tired of it?
- The song I sing in the shower?
- Beach, mountains or city for a vacation?
- The vegetable I refuse to eat?
- My favorite season, and why?
- A small gift under $20 that would truly make my day?
- The kind of restaurant I pick when it’s my call?
- The show I watch “just one episode” of before bed?
- My favorite smell?
10 questions about your memories
- Where was our first date?
- What was the weather like that day? A rough answer can count.
- What was our first trip together?
- Which moment in our story still makes me laugh?
- What was the first movie we watched together?
- Who sent the first text?
- Which dish did we completely ruin in the kitchen?
- Which song reminds me of when we first got together?
- What’s the most beautiful view we’ve seen together?
- What was the first nickname I gave you?
10 questions about dreams and plans
- Which country do I dream of visiting?
- What would I like to learn this year?
- If I got a surprise day off, what would I do with it?
- What does my ideal weekend for two look like?
- Which room in our home would I redo first?
- Which pet would I like to adopt someday… or never?
- What little challenge would I like to take on with you?
- What would my perfect birthday dinner look like?
- What job would I have liked to try in another life?
- What tradition would I like us to start together?
Why this little game is good for you
Psychologist John Gottman talks about building love maps: a detailed knowledge of your partner’s inner world, from their past memories to their hopes, fears and dreams, along with the small details of their life right now. The Gottman Institute makes a point that fits this game nicely: that map is never finished. Over a lifetime you keep adding to it, and there is always more to learn about your partner. A playful quiz is an easy, low-pressure way to fill in a few details.
It doesn’t replace a real conversation, and it doesn’t measure how strong a relationship is. A score of 3 out of 10 mostly means you have things to tell each other, and that your tastes may have changed since you met.
Questions to avoid
Some questions turn the game into an interrogation. It’s better to leave them out, especially if you’re playing in front of other couples:
- Exes and jealousy. “Who was your first love?” can stir up tension without adding anything to the game.
- Sensitive topics. Health, money, complicated family situations, wanting kids: these deserve a real conversation between the two of you, not a scorecard.
- Trick questions. “What’s my worst flaw?” puts your partner on the spot no matter what they say.
- Security information. Your full date of birth, the name of your first pet or the street you grew up on are sometimes used as security questions for online accounts. Our guide to the questions you should never share explains why.
Playing with other couples
For a double date or a night with three couples, each couple writes down their answers in a corner of the room, then partners quiz each other in front of everyone. The couple with the most points picks the music or the dessert, nothing more: a token prize keeps the competition from taking over. For a full evening with several rounds and a timed plan, follow our step-by-step guide to hosting a quiz night.
| Score out of 10 | Just-for-fun reading |
|---|---|
| 8 to 10 | You know each other by heart… or you’ve played before. |
| 5 to 7 | Some fun surprises to tell each other about. |
| 0 to 4 | The perfect starting point for tonight’s conversation. |
The game works best when everyone can laugh at their own mistakes: don’t comment on your partner’s score in front of the group. If one of you is far more competitive than the other, play as a team against another couple rather than against each other.
What to do after the game
Keep your answers and play again in six months: some of them will have changed, and that’s normal. You can also turn the list into a small date-night ritual, with one question over dinner each night of the week. You can also take turns making up your own questions; our guide to writing good quiz questions will help you come up with balanced answer choices. Want to test your friends this time instead of your partner? The 40 questions to ask your best friend work exactly the same way.